I found it necessary today to unfriend someone on Facebook. Now, I didn’t make this decision lightly. It was a person who had sent me a friend request a short while ago and I accepted because, although I hadn’t known the person in any way previously we had several friends in common. The person began regularly liking then commenting on my status updates, but as I had chosen recently to cut back on my social media use in general I did not follow their updates so was not commenting likewise. I just do not have time at the moment. Which is why I wrote this first blog post about it last week, putting more of a positive spin on the situation: Another Page – Social media and me …
Following now is, for me, the negative side of social media.
Unfortunately, this person had chosen to make comments on both my status updates, and those comments made by my friends, comments I considered to be inappropriate. Not rude or derogatory or troll-like inappropriate, but inappropriate to who I am and what I believe (or don’t believe in, actually) on the photos and subjects I choose to post on my wall. Granted, this person did not know me at all. But would that not have been their first clue they should have gotten to know me better first before posting religious and/or judgmental comments on my wall? Or making judgmental comments about my friends’ comments?
Unless I know my opinions are welcome, especially those that may go against my “friends’” beliefs, ideas, opinions, I just do not comment. I may “like” but even then I’m careful to like only those status updates, photos, cat videos, songs that I truly do like. (That would be ALL the cat videos, of course!) I NEVER make any religious comments or share anything religious or comment on other religious posts, because … I am not religious myself. I do not follow any religious philosophies and I don’t believe in the existence of any deities. (I’m still thinking things through, as a matter of fact, but I’m doing just fine on my own, so please don’t feel the need to indoctrinate me with your own beliefs.) Since I am respectful of others and what they choose to post on Facebook, I do not make any contrary comments – nor do I wish anyone else to make such comments, or judge me, on my status updates.
“She’s gone off the deep end,” I hear some of you saying. But it is my Facebook Wall, after all, and I get to choose what stays on and what is taken off. It’s my party and I’ll unfriend who I want to … I haven’t had reason to unfriend many people in the 5 years I’ve been on Facebook, but in every case (also in choosing the more permanent method of blocking a few people) it’s been as a result of an “inappropriate” friendship that I should not have accepted in the first place. I’m sure I’ve been unfriended and blocked by others as well. That’s the nature of this social-media beast: Here today, forgotten tomorrow.
Just so you know, this is the only person I’ve taken issue with recently, so I’m not likely to unfriend you or anyone else. Unless you make inappropriate comments that prove to me you don’t know me at all. I do invite discussion or other views or even criticism when the subject on my status update suggests I’m looking for your opinions. However, please keep your religious leanings and judgmental comments on your own status updates. Okay?
I do welcome your comments here on this topic. Have you had to deal with situations like this? Have you noticed that just because they now have the ability to comment online, many people feel they also have the right to say whatever they want, with no repercussions? Trolls aside, there seems to be very little respect online these days.
You are most welcome here! Enjoying the view with me from my trailer or verandah.